"I need my space".

The "GRRRR" that follows is usually a competition between adult and teen for who is in control, or at least, whose needs are the priority.

This "space" is time to chillout and socialise, and freedom from parental nagging, pestering and pressure.

It's your child's final year of high school so brace yourself for the simmering pressure cooker and the battle-mania on the home-front. The significance of the year with the expectation to perform well creates an extra tension for any individual, particularly a hormonal teenager.

With their brains and bodies still developing, transitioning in the midst of trying to secure their future education is not always a joyous journey. Typically teens are also exploring their independence and wanting to make their own decisions.

There is no real magic formula. It's a dynamic tight rope walk of sorts between allowing freedom and keeping oversight of study.

A supportive parenting style sets some boundaries and rules, but it is also open to discussing these, and to acknowledge the child's growing independence and self responsibility. Encourage your children to set their own goals, assess the consequences of their actions, and learn from their successes and failures.

A few tips:-

• Continue your regular routines, conversations and ensure they don't lose touch with familiar activities and surroundings.
• Agree on personal space for study and time out and discuss acceptable messiness boundaries
• Look out for signs of trouble coping as you may need to step in and consider help with both study and emotional issues
• Let them know you are proud of their efforts and achievements by acknowledging success. Though keep it simple and low key as there will inevitably be troughs with the peaks ahead.

And when it's all over, you'll both be smiling...well at least still talking.