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Posted by Patricia_Marie
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on Thursday, 21 November 2013
Dear Patricia Marie

I am invited to a wedding next year which is far way and I need to book accommodation for the weekend. Two of my friends have booked up hotels but unfortunately didn't communicate with each other before booking and have booked different ones. Now I don't know what to do because whichever one I book I feel I will be offending the other person. Please help.

Patricia Marie says...

Firstly, I would like to say how lucky your friends are to have someone as thoughtful and caring as yourself.

However, I'm wondering why you're feeling the need to make things right, almost not wanting to escalate a problem that you never caused. Where is this overwhelming fear of you offending either party coming from? Perhaps if you can allow yourself to step back from the emotions of the situation you may be able to think more practically.
Which hotel would be better suited to your needs? Is the right type of room available, will the view suit, is it in a convenient location etc.  You need to put these issues across to your friends, so you are emphasising what suits YOU, rather than choosing between them. Then perhaps all three of you could devise a plan where you are all equally included in any arrangements. You may want to suggest taking turns to dine at each others' hotels.
Feel sure your dilemma will soon dissolve completely when you begin to look forward to a weekend of fun and celebrations shared with friends.

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