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A Single Ticket

Posted by Young Ladies About Town
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on Thursday, 25 September 2014
Being single when the majority of your friends are paired off can be a bit of a bore. And let's face it none of us singles want to sit through another awful date (Tinder arranged or not).

Despite this, on receiving an invite to board the Love Train (I defy you to not have the 1972 hit by the O'Jays stuck in your head now) I couldn't help but agree.

Arranged by Match.com in association with East Coast Trains, the Love Train would be a round trip to York, with activities on the train there and back and the chance to explore York or take part in the arranged activities in the city. And best of all, every passenger on the train, all 200 of them, would be single.

This first ever dating via railway event would also include breakfast and dinner. Single guys and free food...who wouldn't be sold?

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On route to York (apparently one of the most romantic cities in the UK, with more couples tying the knot in the Yorkshire city than anywhere else in Britain) the entertainment included a mariachi band (what's not to love?), magician, a shadow artist, a poet, and radio1 dj Scott Mills would be on hand to match make.

Luckily, everyone who was offered a place on the train was allowed to bring a guest aka a wing woman or man. This did somewhat boost the number of ladies on the train but it's to be expected considering men are much less likely to indulge in online dating/dating events.

As fun a time as I had I do feel the lack of the aforementioned O'Jays tracked being played was a bit of an error. On top of that I can't say I got the chance to meet that many guys. We were all quite spread out making it difficult to mingle unless you went on a stroll through the carriages for a blatant oogle session. So although there was no love to be found for me on the Love Train I can't deny I still had a great day out and met some fun people (mainly girls). And I came home with the odd souvenir from some of York's vintage shops.

Match.com now run a number of events for members to help lovelorn singles find that someone special. For more information visit www.match.com/events
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Which type of mother?

Posted by Mum About Town
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I met someone a couple of weeks ago at a party. She (proudly) told me that she didn’t want to have children. I didn’t ask if she had a partner. She then asked me if I had children. (She didn’t ask if I had a partner). And then she asked me what type of mother I was.

Basically she had broken every rule in my small-talk handbook. That night, once safely at home away from bad cocktail drinkers and silly comments, I started to think about the different mothers I knew and how they might fit into types. The ridiculously kind souls who never shout (they do exist). Those who never admit they are wrong to their children. The ones who over-praise – their kids, the dog, even me. Not forgetting the ‘What About ME!’ mother who continually puts herself first.

But then the whole sorting these mums into types felt ALL wrong. Bad and unfair and downright horrid. So, I quickly unsorted the mums in my head and instead started to think what I should have said to her, Ms Judgemental as she questioned me.

I’m the type of mother who just tries not to overanalyse who I am’ I should have answered. ‘Because if I’m a type then so are my kids and then what a dull old world this would be.

Or – on the other hand - I could have just as easily retorted ‘the unpredictable mother’…

Terrible tweens

Posted by Nanny Knows Best
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The “terrible twos” feel like a walk in the park when the sweet, happy moppet you love has transformed back into the tantrum-throwing vixen.

Tween girls, and boys for that matter, can be moody, overdramatic, self-centred, focused almost solely on friends, close-mouthed, surly, back-talking and condescending to parents, nannies, teachers, siblings and really, EVERYONE.  They can, of course, also be mature, affectionate and delightful, but at their worst they’re a cross between the most challenging aspects of toddlers and teens.

You can blame the hormones but heed a few behavioural adjustments, yours and theirs, even though it may seem unfair that you have to do most of the work in your relationship. Your tweens may look like young men and women, but they’ve got a lot of growing up to do emotionally. It’s your job and privilege to help them.

- Your relationship will take priority over discipline as you will not get respect if your tween doesn’t feel connected to you.

- Schedule regular “dates” for discussion or simply going to a movie or a meal. Sometimes NOT talking helps too.

- Find appropriate ways to give independence so they won’t have to rebel.

- Adolescence is a transition phase so empathise and appreciate the anxieties important to your tween.

- Sleep and rest are still important even if more challenging. Maintain house rules for sleep times and limited computer/phone use (role modelling is effective and necessary).

- Fresh air, any physical activity, helps clear tense situations, distract a tween or from intense emotions (again, join in, lead the way, or cheer on at the sidelines).

- “You don’t understand” is what a tween feels and screams out when confused or hurt. Don’t take all their outbursts to heart and stay calm through the tantrums.

- Always insist on civility so muster your own and don’t overreact in the middle of hysterics.

- Keep up the cuddles and the kisses and the closeness even if they may start to squirm. You won’t get this opportunity back to show them your love even if/when they question it.

And just when you think you may have mastered the tween phase, it’s a mere couple of years preparing you for the next seven of teens. BREATHE, SMILE, and breathe some more.

I am lonely

Posted by Patricia_Marie
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Dear Patricia Marie,

I have recently moved away from London to a new area, about two hours' drive from where I have lived my whole life.  I now live in a lovely little home in a small village community, as I wanted to get away from the rat race of life.  I had imagined that once I moved in, the neighbours would be popping round, and I would chat to people in the street, and that I would easily make new friends.

However the opposite has happened.  My nearest neighbour seems a grouchy moaner, who merely stared at me when I tried to introduce myself, the people I meet in the street have no interest in striking up a conversation with me, and not one person has come round to welcome me into the area.  In fact I feel I am most unwelcome and an outsider. I feel very low as I really had expected this move to give me the peace and tranquility I have always desired, but all I now feel is ostracism and unfriendliness.

I do not have the money to move again, but having to consider this may be my only option as I am worried how lonely I am going to become if I stay.

Patricia Marie says...

I am not surprised you are feeling lonely as most people would if they were living on there own with no friends or family nearby. However, I do feel you need to give yourself more time to settle in to your new home and surroundings. Of course it's important for everyone to have a good support network, and this will happen - just not overnight. However, you can make some good contacts straight away.

Get out and about, look for groups, clubs or societies in your area where you can become involved in your passions. You could also volunteer for a local charity or church group. Helping is a great way to meet others, to counteract loneliness and to feel connected. Have you considered getting a dog, which would not only offer great companionship, but dogs provide a neutral topic for conversation and, therefore, act as social ' ice-breakers.'

Just as you feel the outsider in your neighbourhood, established residents can often feel threatened by newcomers, so why not take the initiative. Be hospitable, perhaps organise a coffee morning, or evening drinks party. Send invitations to your neighbours, saying you would love to meet them, be able to get to know them properly and look forward to welcoming them into your new home.

Rather than put any pressure on yourself at this moment, give yourself a year before making any decisions on moving again. I do feel by this time, you would have made friends and settled in well, and most importantly be enjoying your home which you say you love. Try not to lose sight of the fact that you are at the start of a new adventure in your life and need to cherish the experience whatever the outcome.


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The Navitas Clinic

Posted by Young Ladies About Town
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on Tuesday, 23 September 2014
Energy healing. Anyone with a vaguely pragmatic disposition (or those with a dose of good British cynicism) is bound to dismiss it. There are, however, things in this world are intangible yet undeniable. Instinct, for example. Gut reactions. And love, of course, that's a biggie.

We Young Ladies are always up for new experiences, so this one found herself trotting along to Wimpole Street one rainy Monday evening to meet Jackie Mannell. Jackie spent more than two decades working as a hairdresser and, realising that she spent a great amount of time listening to and consoling her clients, decided to focus on her natural affinity for healing. She retrained as an Energy Practitioner, and now operates The Navitas Clinic (the Latin word for 'Energy') in both East Sussex and London.

Her role is effectively to channel the healing energy of the universe to help those with a condition. This condition can be anything, from eczema to aching limbs to cancer. The way Jackie explains it is that you can't have a problem without having feelings attached to it. Our minds and bodies are so interlinked that these feelings affect our physiology, ultimately determining the behaviour of our cells. Jackie's belief is that she can locate the root cause of the problem (those unsettling feelings which manifest as a condition), and transfer energy to clear it away.

A consultation with Jackie (who has a wonderfully calm aura about her) begins with a discussion of your issue. Mine is that I am short-sighted. Not the most severe of problems, admittedly, but one that affects me on a daily basis. After pinpointing how and when the short-sightedness began, Jackie talks me through a meditation. I feel a little self-conscious at first, but with my eyes closed and Jackie's soothing voice taking me on a little mental journey, I am soon absorbed in the moment.
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Next I lie down on the clinic's bed, and Jackie stands behind me with her hands pressed to my head. This is to channel energy, and as she gently moves her hands to different pressure points, I can feel a sort of tingling. Whether this is genuinely the transfer of energy or simply the power of suggestion, it nonetheless is a definite sensation.

Jackie's clients have been known to hobble into her clinic on a walking stick, and practically skip out by the end of the session. I can't say my eyesight was suddenly restored, but I certainly felt something go through me during my hour with her. I was fantastically relaxed by the end, and I slept better than night than I have in aeons.

Energy healing is a tricky thing to get your head around (no pun intended) if you're not an especially spiritual type. I like to think of myself a sensible sort of girl, but I unequivocally felt something go on in Jackie's gentle presence. If you have a problem and are at your wit's end trying to sort it out, why not throw away your preconceptions and give this a go? I am very tempted to book another session. Who knows...I could be flitting to my next Young Ladies' appointment with perfect eyesight.

For more information visit www.thenavitasclinic.co.uk


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